Why am I so emotionally attached to a movie?
When we watch a TV show or movie, we empathize with fictional characters as we would with another “real” person right in front of us. We experience psychological effects such as identification, self-other taking, and the proximity effect.
According to Jennifer Barnes, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Oklahoma, it's because of your brain's inability to differentiate between real and fictional relationships that you're able to still feel the same kinds of emotions from one as you would the other.
This gives our brains a much-needed rest from “the usual.” Movies bring us a sense of relief, even if they stress us out first. Watching something suspenseful releases cortisol (the stress hormone) in the brain, followed by dopamine, which produces feelings of pleasure. Going out to a movie theater is not for everyone.
- Clarify your values. ...
- Revisit or discover hobbies. ...
- Lean on friends/family for support. ...
- Give yourself time. ...
- Keep a regular schedule. ...
- Speak with a licensed therapist. ...
- Slow things down and work on developing positive habits. ...
- Write a list of “whys”
At the time of writing, fictophilia is not recognized or proposed as a specific diagnostic condition by the World Health Organization (ICD-11) or the American Psychiatric Association (DSM-5) (but see 'paraphilia' in both manuals).
- Reread or rewatch the parts of the book or show where your fictional love appears. ...
- Look for other ways to keep the character in front of you, whether writing your own fan fiction, or drawing the character so you can see him again.
So it's normal to be extremely attached to a fictional character or celebrity, so long as it doesn't become an obsession that takes over your life. If, say, you spend so long thinking about Chris Hemsworth that you're not dating anyone else because of that attraction, that's when it might be unhealthy.
Often, your attachment style is influenced by your childhood. For example, if your caregivers were “hot and cold” in terms of how responsive they were to your needs, you may have difficulty forming secure attachments. Your attachment style can also be influenced by other relationships throughout your life.
Fictiophilia is not an officially recognized disorder. The main reason for this is that most people form healthy parasocial relationships. They learn from their favorite characters, admire them, assimilate their traits, and move on with their lives. Being obsessed with fictional characters is a rare phenomenon.
- 1 Brokeback Mountain (2005) River Road Entertainment.
- 2 Life Is Beautiful (1997) ...
- 3 Pieces of a Woman (2020) ...
- 4 Love Story (1970) ...
- 5 Marley & Me (2008) ...
- 6 The Pursuit of Happyness (2006) ...
- 7 If Beale Street Could Talk (2018) ...
- 8 Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004) ...
Does watching movies help depression?
“Along with the escapism, movies can [invite] your depression take a back seat. Movies can also help you release your emotions and act as a catharsis, sometimes helping you express some emotions you've been having a hard time expressing,” she says.
Results indicate that people enjoy sad movies through two mediators: realism, and involvement. According to the authors, 'sadness enhances perceived reality and increases a sense of involvement, leading viewers to enjoy the sad film'.
Attachment, in contrast, can develop when needs for intimacy, companionship, validation, or anything else go unfulfilled. When you find someone who fulfills those needs, you might develop a strong attachment to them. Everyone has needs, and everyone wants to get those needs met.
"If you watched something really powerful or riveting or filled with conflict, choose something lighter for your next show, like a comedy," she says. "Look for a show that's easier to emotionally digest, and that will give you some relief from negative feelings."
You can become emotionally attached to people even without romantic or sexual attraction. Simply feeling close to someone helps you bond and increases your sense of connection. This attachment might help you feel safe, comfortable, happy, maybe even somewhat euphoric in their company.