by Jesse
Adoption is such a fantastic thing. Thankfully, more people worldwide are beginning to realize this.
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In the United States alone, about 135,000 children are adopted yearly. When you think of how many families are getting excellent additions to their homes, it’s difficult not to smile.
Adopting a child provides immeasurable benefits, including providing a stable environment, improved social life, and increased feelings of love and belonging for the child.
However lovely adoption may be, it can be just as bad. In some cases, members of the adopting family or even the adopted child may find it difficult to adjust to their new life.
It may also be difficult for the adopting parents to treat the adopted child or children the same way they would a biological child. This is the exact problem a Redditor’s wife faced.
A man shared on the AITA subreddit that he and his wife had adopted two children a decade ago. In addition, they have a biological child, making it three beautiful kids to cater to.
Presently, two of the three kids are ready for college, and as a responsible father, OP ensured that he kept college funds for each of them, including the 12-year-old who isn't ready yet. Most importantly, he kept the same amount for all three of them.
Now the problem is, OP's wife seems to be comfortable with the money allocated to their biological child but is upset that the same amount is going to their adopted children. In her opinion, their adopted kids should get part funding, while the rest of the money should be spent on her.
OP further revealed that this led to a heated argument, resulting in his wife leaving the house. There's so much more about his story that makes it worth reading.
Check out the full details below:
When your wife tries to sideline your adopted kids
OP explained that he and his wife adopted two kids 10 years ago. But now, his wife's attitude has changed towards them.
Apparently, she got upset that OP was dedicated to funding their college education, rather than spending the money on her
In an update, OP revealed that it was his wife's idea to adopt the kids in the first place. Now she has angrily left the house due to his decision to treat them equally with their biological child.
This could spell the end of their marriage
OP further shared that his wife offered an apology, but has decided to move on with her life in another country
The post, which has since gone viral, garnered 9.9k upvotes and 1.5k comments. We gathered the best reactions from the Reddit community:
"Make sure the money is in funds that are tied directly to each child and that your wife doesn't have access."
"It's absolutely horrible that your wife apparently thinks less of two of your kids because they're adopted."
"Your adopted children ARE your children and you owe them just as much of your love and resources."
"Just know Aiden will NEVER forget those words your wife said. His heart and mindset changed the moment he heard that."
"Reconsider whether you want to be with a partner that throws a fit then leaves for days when she doesn't get what she wants at the expense of her kids."
"She should not have adopted children if she couldn't treat them the same as her own biological children."
"Her attitude is a sure way to single out her kids. And enhance the fact that they are adopted."
"All 3 kids are your children. You are doing the right thing by funding their education equally."
"What a terrible thing for a mother to say about children she brought into your home."
"What is it that your wife wants that she’s under the impression she can’t get without withholding a portion of the kids’ college funds?"
"I'm glad your children have you. It also seems that they have each other as well."
"It sounds like your wife is jealous of them for some reason. You did the right thing."
"You would be a huge a**hole if you do what your wife wants here. What she is doing is unbelievably cruel."
"This is why there are so many former adopted kids that absolutely hate the system and the people that adopted them. You are good, your wife is not at all."
"NTA, wtf is wrong with your wife? Did you adopt surprise affair kids that you moved in behind your wife's back?"
"I am sure she loves money more than the kids. Which begs the question do you want her back?"
OP received lots of replies affirming that he is indeed a great father to all his kids. However, his wife was at the receiving end of some angry comments.
Many commenters also advised OP to look into securing the funds for the kids in case of his death or divorce. From the looks of things, all three kids have their futures secured, and college finances won't be a problem anytime soon.
What are your thoughts about how OP handled the situation, and do you think his wife had any valid reason to make such demands?
