I was abruptly awakened and told, “The house is on fire. Go outside!” As I ran out of my bedroom and into the hall, my socks slipped on the polished oak floor. A guiding hand helped me keep my footing and a frantic voice urged, “Hurry! Hurry!”
As I got to the door, I looked over my shoulder and saw flames leaping out of the heating grate on the floor. The door was thrown open and I was shoved outside into the carport. “Go stand in the driveway and wait for me. And, do not come back inside. Do you hear me? Do not come back inside the house!”
The door shut and I began to cry. I stood and stared at the seafoam green door with the frosted jalousie windows. I waited and waited, but I did not go stand in the driveway. I couldn’t move. I began to shiver as the cold concrete floor seeped through my socks, and the winter air penetrated my pajamas. It seemed to take forever, and with each passing minute, I cried harder. I could taste the salt of tears flowing down my face and into my mouth.
Finally the door reopened and my mother announced, “The fire is out.” Relief flooded my body as I ran into her arms and she held me tight. was 2-years-old and the mental images of that day are as clear as if it happened yesterday. It is perhaps my oldest memory.
There are many things that motivate us. But the most powerful motivator of all is fear.
Fear is a primal instinct that served us as cave dwellers and still serves us today. It keeps us alive, because if we survive a bad experience, we never forget how to avoid it in the future. Our most vivid memories are born in fear. Adrenaline etches them into our brains.
Nothing makes us more uncomfortable than fear. And we have so many fears: fear of pain, disease, injury, failure, not being accepted, missing an opportunity, and being scammed, to name a few. Fear invokes the flight or fight system, and our first reaction is often to flee back to our comfort zone. If we don’t know the way back, we are likely to follow whoever shows us a path.
Marketers use fear as a motivator as often as they can. They present a scenario they hope will invoke our sense of fear. Then they show us a solution – a path back to our comfort zone – that entails using their product or service. Fear is used to sell almost everything: cars, tires, and life insurance are classics. But clever marketers also use it to sell breakfast cereal and deodorant. As a result, we purchase all sorts of things that a generation ago were considered unnecessary: antibacterial soap, alarm systems, vitamins. The list goes on and on.
But fear can be too powerful to use as a motivator because it can also paralyze — the classic "deer in headlights" syndrome. Would you like to use fear to motivate your employees to perform better? “If you don’t sell more widgets, you’re fired!” It can work, but there are rules you must follow for it to be successful. To use fear successfully as a motivator, a solution must be offered with it. A new path to follow. You can tell employees that they need to sell more, but unless you show them how, fear will cause flight or worse: paralysis.
Fear is a powerful motivator, but it is a negative one (see my article Fear vs. Power). I prefer to motivate someone by eliminating doubt. Doubt destroys motivation. If you can help a person get rid of it, you will motivate them positively. I will elaborate on this in my next post.
Robert Evans Wilson, Jr. is an author, humorist, and innovation consultant.
As an expert in psychology and human behavior, I find the narrative you shared to be a poignant illustration of the profound impact of fear on our memories and actions. The vivid description of the house fire incident vividly captures the emotional and physiological responses associated with fear, ranging from the involuntary physical reactions like slipping on the polished floor to the heightened emotional state reflected in the tears and shivering.
The author masterfully taps into the primal nature of fear, highlighting its evolutionary roots as a survival instinct that has persisted throughout human history. The recounting of the childhood experience vividly underscores the lasting imprint that fear can leave on our minds, with the mental images remaining remarkably clear even after many years.
The article delves into the multifaceted nature of fear, exploring its role as a potent motivator in various aspects of our lives. It rightly emphasizes fear as a driving force that compels individuals to take action in order to avoid potential harm or negative outcomes. The mention of marketers leveraging fear as a motivator resonates with my understanding of how emotions, including fear, are frequently exploited in advertising to influence consumer behavior.
The author astutely observes that fear, while a powerful motivator, can also be overwhelming to the point of paralysis. This aligns with psychological principles, as an excessive fear response can trigger the "fight or flight" mechanism, hindering rational decision-making and action.
I appreciate the author's nuanced perspective on motivation, distinguishing between the negative motivation induced by fear and a more positive form that involves eliminating doubt. The idea that doubt can undermine motivation aligns with psychological theories on self-efficacy and the importance of confidence in achieving goals.
In summary, the article provides a comprehensive exploration of fear as a motivator, drawing on personal experiences, psychological insights, and observations about its influence in marketing and leadership. The narrative skillfully weaves together these elements to convey a compelling message about the intricate interplay between fear, motivation, and human behavior.
