Rhaenyra and Alicent are House of the Dragon’s most compelling but underserved relationship (2024)

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In just nine episodes, the Game of Thrones prequel House of the Dragon has covered a ton of ground, spanning decades. Some characters have aged up multiple times, half a dozen children have been born, and heir to the throne Rhaenyra has gotten married, fake widowed, and remarried all in a few hours of TV. To depict such large swaths of time and quickly lay the groundwork for the impending Targaryen succession struggle, the showrunners have made strategic choices about when to focus on character and relationship development.

As a result, Alicent and Rhaenyra — perhaps the central relationship of the show — have precious few scenes together after the first episode, making the reasons for their falling-out-turned-civil-war at times maddeningly unclear: What was Alicent’s deal with Rhaenyra? Why was she so mad about her former friend’s sexual exploits? Why didn’t Rhaenyra just tell Alicent the truth about sleeping with Ser Criston Cole? Are they in love? House of the Dragon succeeds in bringing the rote history of to life, but it falls short in fleshing out the motivations of the two women at the center of the conflict.

The importance of this relationship and the intimacy between the young women is hammered home in the first 10 minutes of the show. We see Rhaenyra dismount from her dragon and walk to a carriage where Alicent waits to accompany her. Later, they stroll casually through the Red Keep arm in arm, and Rhaenyra fantasizes about flying together on dragonback while lying in Alicent’s lap under a weirwood tree. We come to clearly understand this relationship as more than one of just duty between handmaiden and princess. But as the season progresses and the next fight for the crown begins, things get muddled.

In Fire & Blood, Alicent and Rhaenyra’s relationship sours on the basis of politics. They’re both vying for the Iron Throne and, therefore, become enemies — simple. There’s likely more to the story, beyond the purview of the in-book narrators who can only observe so much. But at its core, the fissure is straightforward: It’s about power. In House of the Dragon, showrunners Miguel Sapochnik and Ryan Condal elaborate on that source material by imagining what the pair’s intimate relationship was like, inserting an array of personal clashes into the story. The first of these blows to the friendship is Alicent’s marriage to Rhaenyra’s father, King Viserys. Prompted by her own father and Hand of the King, Otto Hightower, Alicent consoles the king as he grieves his wife’s death, winning his favor. But she simultaneously acts as Rhaenyra’s main confidante as the latter worries about challenges to her claim on the throne. (Seems like a conflict of interest!) Rhaenyra is blindsided by the engagement and, understandably, hurt.

Rhaenyra and Alicent are House of the Dragon’s most compelling but underserved relationship (1) Photo: Ollie Upton/HBO

Over the next few episodes, their relationship clearly changes, warmth and closeness replaced by iciness and distance. But because of the time jumps, we don’t get to see how. What’s more, after the first three episodes aired, Greg Yaitanes, director of “The Rogue Prince” and “Second of His Name,” revealed that a few key moments between Alicent and Rhaenyra had been cut. The slashed scenes include a blowout fight between the two after Viserys announces his intention to marry Alicent, and Rhaenyra helping her former friend get dressed for her wedding. This seems like pretty crucial content to ax: We don’t know how Rhaenyra feels after her father’s declaration of marriage or what of those feelings she shared with Alicent. We don’t know what terms they were on during the wedding. We’re also ignorant of how Alicent responded to Rhaenyra’s confrontation and how she felt about her own engagement. The story can continue without these omissions, certainly. But these gaps diminish our insight into the pair’s dynamic as it evolves.

In episode 4, Rhaenyra and Alicent nearly make amends, telling each other how they’ve missed one another, but it’s just a blip (one of many). The next nail in the coffin for their relationship is Rhaenyra’s night of sexual escapades, first in a brothel with her uncle, and later sleeping with Ser Criston. When Alicent catches wind of the rumor, she’s furious... for reasons the audience is never fully given. And when she later learns Rhaenyra didn’t sleep with Daemon (Matt Smith), but with Ser Criston, Alicent seems devastated.

Part of her anger can be explained by her father Otto’s (Rhys Ifans) dismissal as Hand as a result of bringing the rumors to the king. However, her rage is directed at Rhaenyra, not her husband, and seems to be more about her friend’s actions themselves, rather than their ramifications. By the fifth episode, viewers understand that Alicent is pious, dutiful, and trapped in a marriage where sex is an obligation, not a pleasure — which is juxtaposed starkly with Rhaenyra’s brothel antics. But without additional context about Alicent’s values, and joint screen time to develop the women’s relationship as it shifts and crumbles, the Green Queen’s level of indignation doesn’t land: Is Alicent really declaring war because her friend had sex?

Later, and with additional pushing from her power-hungry father, placing her son Aegon on the Iron Throne becomes Alicent’s driving force. But when taken at face value, her anger seems to be more of a reaction to Rhaenyra’s exploration of her sexuality, ultimately amounting to slu*t-shamey pearl clutching. Compared to the princess’ response when Alicent marries her dad — arguably a bigger, more pointed slight than having sex before marriage — the degree of Alicent’s distress feels disproportionate to the complaint, court politics or no.

Rhaenyra and Alicent are House of the Dragon’s most compelling but underserved relationship (2) Photo: Ollie Upton/HBO
Rhaenyra and Alicent are House of the Dragon’s most compelling but underserved relationship (3) Photo: Ollie Upton/HBO

In multiple interviews, Milly Alco*ck and Emily Carey, who portray Rhaenyra and Alicent in the first five episodes of the season, have confirmed that they played their characters as having a romantic connection, not just a close, platonic one. In a conversation with the New York Times, Carey said, “As a queer person myself, I read an undertone in the script that I knew could be played.”

Alicent and Rhaenyra in love? That would explain a lot, particularly Alicent’s rage. The problem is that this was a choice the actors made and a theory fueled by fans, not an underpinning the writers and creators intentionally inserted. As Carey clarified in the interview: “I don’t think Ryan Condal sat there writing a Sapphic drama.” Maybe he should have! The performers and viewers are inventing the context the show should have included to make sense of and strengthen the basis of House of the Dragon’s core conflict. Without this backstory, Alicent’s motives feel insufficient, and her anger rings hollow.

By injecting Martin’s record of Targaryen ancestry with a deeper humanity — relationships, disputes, untold secrets — the showrunners have created interesting characters out of one-dimensional historical figures. However, the canonical succession struggle and these new interpersonal dynamics don’t always mesh. And time and time again, it’s Alicent who bears the brunt of such imperfect changes. In the context of a larger fight over who will rule Westeros, Alicent cutting off a childhood friend because she slept with someone seems petty and vindictive, and the narrative doesn’t make space to explore this further.

When the characters age up in episode 6, viewers are once more left to fill in the gaps themselves to understand how Alicent and Rhaenyra’s relationship has changed. And it seems clear from the writing of Alicent’s early scenes that the wound of their division has calcified at least partially because she still has a problem with Rhaenyra’s sex life. Speaking to Ser Criston, the co-president of the “I hate Rhaenyra because she f*cks” club, Alicent says, “I have to believe that in the end, honor and decency will prevail,” referring to her former friend’s extramarital affair and resulting children with Ser Harwin Strong.

An episode later, Alicent’s anger comes to a head when she slashes Rhaenyra with the infamous Catspaw Dagger after a brawl between their sons results in one of them losing an eye. “What have I done but what was expected of me?” Alicent yells. “Forever upholding the kingdom, the family, the law, while you flout all to do as you please. Where is duty? Where is sacrifice? It’s trampled under your pretty foot again.” With these lines, the writers finally offer viewers a glimpse into Alicent’s feelings: envy, nostalgia, bitterness. But it comes too late.

After yet another time jump in episode 8, Alicent and Rhaenyra are once again on the precipice of reconciling — it’s enough to give you whiplash — but the brief truce undercuts Alicent all the more. She comes off as fickle, her convictions liable to change on a whim. It reinforces the insubstantial nature of her anger and the additional development that needed to happen to make her motives less flimsy.

It’s episode 9, “The Green Council,” where the inconsistency of Alicent’s characterization is most obvious. The time has come to put her money where her mouth is — the king is dead, and she believes that his last wish is for their son, Aegon, not Rhaenyra, to succeed him. But when Otto reveals a violent plot to do just that, she’s shocked, apparently unaware of the consequences of her yearslong efforts to undermine Rhaenyra’s claim to the throne and cast her as a whor*. What happened to “honor and decency will prevail”? Like the men in her life, the writers seem to use Alicent as they see fit to move the plot forward. She’s a powerful, scheming queen one moment and an ignorant pawn the next.

Rhaenyra and Alicent’s relationship is the most compelling part of House of the Dragon and the most annoying. The series relies on these two women — the disintegration of their friendship directly precedes the war between their houses — but it also neglects them. The showrunners plowed through the first season at warp speed to set up a battle that, as of episode 9, is just getting underway, while deepening a new backstory in the process. But in doing so, they sidelined the heart of the show, building the central conflict of the season on shaky ground. Who are Alicent and Rhaenyra to each other, and what do they want? The writers don’t always seem to know, and neither do we.

Rhaenyra and Alicent are House of the Dragon’s most compelling but underserved relationship (2024)

FAQs

What is the relationship between Alicent and Rhaenyra? ›

They are seemingly inseparable. As the daughter of the hand, Otto Hightower (Rhys Ifans), Alicent has spent much of her childhood in King's Landing along with Princess Rhaenyra. They are close in age and study with the same Septa. They joke together and discuss Rhaenyra's feelings about her father's potential new son.

Did Rhaenyra have a crush on Alicent? ›

'House of the Dragon' stars say Rhaenyra and Alicent are a little bit in love: 'It's 100% something we were conscious of' Warning: Spoilers ahead for season one, episode one of HBO's "House of the Dragon."

Were Rhaenyra and Alicent friends in the book? ›

In the book, the 10-year age difference between Rhaenyra and Alicent means that they are never best friends.

What is the relationship between Criston Cole and Alicent? ›

'House of the Dragon' star Emily Carey says Alicent was originally meant to be 'in love' with Criston Cole. "House of the Dragon" star Emily Carey explained one reason why Alicent felt betrayed by Rhaenyra. She told Variety that Alicent was actually in love with Criston Cole before Rhaenyra slept with him.

Why doesn't Alicent like Rhaenyra? ›

Their ways of life draw parallels, and shortly after, Rhaenyra's autonomy becomes the root cause of Alicent's animosity toward her. She begins to crumble under the pressure of being Queen, putting up a public facade of decency and sacrifice, while Rhaenyra, in her opinion, gets to do what she wants.

Does Daemon actually love Rhaenyra? ›

Daemon shows his genuine care and attention to Rhaenyra several times before the two marry. This doesn't take away from the many destructive and inappropriate parts of their relationship, but the books imply that Daemon does love Rhaenyra.

Who did Rhaenyra lose her virginity to? ›

While Daemon and Rhaenyra never actually slept together (though she did secretly lose her virginity to Ser Criston Cole that night), the now banished Daemon Targaryen refuses to disprove the accusation.

Did Alicent forgive Rhaenyra? ›

However, their words of regret turned out to be sincere, revealing the love that teenage Alicent and Rhaenyra had shared as best friends was still there deep down. Alicent and Rhaenyra forgiving one another in House of the Dragon episode 8 also implies that the entire war had the potential to be avoided.

How much older is Alicent than Rhaenyra? ›

In the book, she's nine years older than Princess Rhaenyra, but in Dragon they're meant to be around the same age: 15 years old as of episode 1, then roughly 17 or 18 during episodes 3-5. Emily Carey, the actress who plays young Alicent, is 19 years old.

Why does Alicent wear green? ›

Do you know what color it glows when old town calls its banners to war?" The reply? "Green." Alicent's dress, then, can be understood as a declaration of civil war—foreshadowing the Targaryen civil to come. Before this, she had dressed in Targaryen colors in public.

Who is the knight Rhaenyra slept with? ›

Nothing ever happened between the kingsguard and the princess. Whereas in HOTD we are shown that Criston and Rhaenyra did indeed have sex, and as you know, Martin had more creative control in HOTD.

What happened to Alicent Hightower in the books? ›

Since Alicent refused to be reconciled, Ser Tyland Lannister, the Hand of the King, ordered her confined to Maegor's Holdfast. Alicent remained in her chambers for the last year of her life. Her only company was her septa, serving girls, and guards.

Did Ser Criston Cole love Rhaenyra? ›

He didn't want Rhaenyra to run away with him because he loved her despite his claims to marry “for love.” Nor was he heartbroken over her refusal.

Who is stronger Criston Cole or Daemon Targaryen? ›

Ser Criston Cole is introduced with an impressive combat achievement: defeating Daemon Targaryen in a tourney. He outdoes Daemon in the joust by throwing him off his horse. When Daemon demands a duel on foot, Criston obliges. He wins that too, albeit after a long period of Daemon dominating him.

Does Criston have feelings for Alicent? ›

Although Criston Cole is unable to act upon his sexual desires, this doesn't mean he's incapable of having romantic or sexual feelings. It's not unreasonable that the person he would share such feelings for is Alicent Hightower, the woman he worships and defends with a passionate violence.

Did Rhaenyra actually lie to Alicent? ›

Lied To Alicent About The Night At The Brothel

Alicent asks her if she really “f**ked Daemon in a pleasure house,” which Rhaenyra calls “a vile accusation,” falsely claiming that “Daemon never touched” her.

Who is Rhaenyra in love with? ›

Rhaenyra and Daemon Fully End Up Together.

Do Alicent and Rhaenyra ever make up? ›

WARNING! This article contains SPOILERS for House of the Dragon season 1, episode 8! After going from best friends to enemies as teenagers, Alicent and Rhaenyra finally make genuine amends in House of the Dragon episode 8.

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