What is Debt?
The term “Debt” means “to owe”. In financial terms, if we have a debt means we owe money to someone. If you do not pay the amount back in full to the person/institution you owe, you are in debt. The more you delay in payback, the more you are expected to pay back with interest. Unless you pay it back, it is trouble, and the bad thing about debt is, it keeps increasing. After a certain point, it’s the debts you will be paying than spending on things you want to nor saving/investing in the future.
Debts are also like an uncleaned garden. If you do not keep clearing them, it grows more wild, absorbing all the necessary nutrients for your plants. Your plant’s growth will be shunned and stunned because of the weeds. The weeds are the debts that you forgot to remove.
Irrespective of whatever debt it may be, it gets accumulated over a while, if you do not pay it. Over some time, the debts will eventually outrun you.
What is an emotion?
Per wiki, Emotions arebiological states associated with the nervous systembrought on by neurophysiological changes variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioral responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. Since emotions are related to the nervous system, it affects both the physiological and psychological aspect of a person.
The emotions that we experience are happiness, sadness, anger, anxiety, anticipation, jealousy, disgust, fear, etc. Emotions keep us healthy, and too much of it consume us as well.
What is an Emotional Debt?
Financial debt occurs when you do not pay back in full what you owe. Emotional debt occurs when you do not identify and acknowledge your emotions. Such debts steal away your time and energy in the present by letting you imagine things that may not exist or letting you stress about your past again and again.
Just like any other loan, it keeps accumulating interest until and unless you pay off the principal. One needs to understand the emotional baggage is from the past where something happened and gave birth to the emotion. It could be because of abuses, harassment, rape, insults, tortures, etc. The feelings associated could be anger, shame, resentment, hatred, guilt, etc. It could lead to an emotional debt in the form of self-blaming, cursing own inability to act, victimizing oneself repeatedly, engaging in self-pity, worried what evil may happen, etc.
How these emotional debts affect our life?
- It steals you from your everyday life. You will not be in the present. Your mind tries to replay what happened in the past and tries to keep you anxious towards the future.
- If it were a relationship issue, you would stop trusting anyone personally and professionally. Be it a workplace relationship, friendship, a potential love interest, or even family members.
- Just like an unhealed physical wound, the emotional damage as well pains a lot. If there is an emotional hurt, the brain treats it just like a physical wound, and that’s one reason it is hard for people to undergo an emotional trauma.
