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When we agree to take someone “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part,” are we also agreeing to full transparency of how much we have saved up in the bank?
One woman recently detailed on Reddit how her husband became extremely upset when he learned she had saved thousands of dollars in her “fun money” account and was able to make a large purchase. Now, she’s wondering if she should have handled the situation differently, so below, you’ll find the full story, as well as a conversation with Adam Kol, the Couples Financial Coach.
This woman and her husband each have separate personal accounts that they’re able to spend on whatever they please
Image credits: micens (not the actual photo)
But after she decided to spend several thousand dollars on gaming gear, her husband suddenly felt entitled to her money
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Mad Dragon Mad Dragon Community Member Follow
Huge red flag that he's this upset that she is a competent money manager and wants to punish her for it. They may have been married for 10 years, but this kind of behavior will likely escalate into more controlling behaviors. I think she should consult with a lawyer about her options.
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Ken Beattie Ken Beattie Community Member Follow
I'm not so sure, I think it's misplaced guilt that she's managed to save and he hasn't. It sounds like he was quite happy knowing she got plenty of money when he assumed she blew through it like he was doing. It's only when he realised she was more frugal than him it became a problem. It could also be that there's a little voice in his head whispering "She's got all this money saved up she could easily up and leave you" and that scared him. Could be put there because of a past experience or maybe he's got a friend whose wife left him.
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Did anyone else feel extremely poor while reading this? Lol No hate to the OP, though. Heck, if you can manage all of that, more power to you!
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Roman Spruce Roman Spruce Community Member Follow
I felt so broke during this article! I hope I can make money like that pretty soon. I actually I live in an extremely cheap area with a very cheap college, so I'm halfway through school and have no debt.
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I'd say new rule: from now he's never allowed to spend more than she does a month. And she needs to check his hobbies account for the last 5 year to see what memorabilia he now needs to sell.
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Mad Dragon Mad Dragon Community Member Follow
Huge red flag that he's this upset that she is a competent money manager and wants to punish her for it. They may have been married for 10 years, but this kind of behavior will likely escalate into more controlling behaviors. I think she should consult with a lawyer about her options.
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Ken Beattie Ken Beattie Community Member Follow
I'm not so sure, I think it's misplaced guilt that she's managed to save and he hasn't. It sounds like he was quite happy knowing she got plenty of money when he assumed she blew through it like he was doing. It's only when he realised she was more frugal than him it became a problem. It could also be that there's a little voice in his head whispering "She's got all this money saved up she could easily up and leave you" and that scared him. Could be put there because of a past experience or maybe he's got a friend whose wife left him.
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Wysteria_Rose Wysteria_Rose Community Member Follow
Did anyone else feel extremely poor while reading this? Lol No hate to the OP, though. Heck, if you can manage all of that, more power to you!
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I felt so broke during this article! I hope I can make money like that pretty soon. I actually I live in an extremely cheap area with a very cheap college, so I'm halfway through school and have no debt.
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I'd say new rule: from now he's never allowed to spend more than she does a month. And she needs to check his hobbies account for the last 5 year to see what memorabilia he now needs to sell.
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