Ex-Husband Breaks Off Alimony Payments, So His Ex-Wife Listens To His Arrogant Advice And Makes Him Pay The Full $120,000 In 30 Days (2024)

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Some people who are clearly in the wrong are shocked when they tell someone “sue me”… and then they do. The law is there to help everyone get justice. And though the system might have some flaws, it still fights for the good of all. In one case, it helped a woman finally get all the alimony payments her ex-husband had owed her and her two kids.

Redditor u/ChickWithAnAttitude wrote up a long and enthralling story about how her husband ended up backing out of an agreement to make alimony payments, and how it ended up costing him far more in the long run. What started out as a very amicable separation eventually led to a lot of resentment. Grab yourselves a cup of tea or coffee, and let’s dive deep into what broken promises can lead to, Pandas. Scroll down for the full story.

Bored Panda reached out to u/ChickWithAnAttitude and she was kind enough to answer our questions. “I think it was a shame for him to turn into a monster. If he had come to me civilly and explained he was strapped or something like that, we could have worked things out and continued the great relationship we had, but since he came in hard, the kids are suffering,” she was very candid about what happened.

Read on for the redditor’s recommendations if you ever find yourselves in a similar situation, why prenups might not be a bad idea, and why it’s absolutely vital to not make your kids choose between their parents.

A redditor shared what happened when her ex-husband backed out of the agreement they had about him paying alimony

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What started out as a very friendly separation eventually led to a lot of anger and drama

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The biggest mistake women make in a divorce is they are nice. And by nice, I don’t mean fair or amicable, I mean they act like a doormat and don’t look after their best interests so that their ex won’t get upset. The ex probably though OP wouldn’t do anything when he cut off alimony and he would get away with it by playing his version of hardball. In many cases, he’d be right but he underestimated OP. I’m sure he whines to his friends and family about how his greedy ex bleeds him. Women need to look after their own interests because men sure look after theirs.

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So so true...

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When my bestie divorced, her ex refused to do anything to support the kids or his dogs (which he dumped on her). By the time the divorce rolled around, she had kept good records. The court mandated that he pay back support and alimony in a big 6 figure amount. Fair's fair.

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That good! She should not pay for his his HE DUMPED on her!

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A friend's husband invested all their savings in his start-up. It failed, they declared bankruptcy and about 8 months later, he left her and their children for a young, wealthy woman. He doesn't work, and he does not pay any support for his children (or dental care or school fees). My friend works three jobs and gets to work on a bicycle. It's really awful. I can't think how someone would treat their children like that.

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Man-child. Probably didn't develop emotionally after the age of 12. She needs to take him to court asap

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The biggest mistake women make in a divorce is they are nice. And by nice, I don’t mean fair or amicable, I mean they act like a doormat and don’t look after their best interests so that their ex won’t get upset. The ex probably though OP wouldn’t do anything when he cut off alimony and he would get away with it by playing his version of hardball. In many cases, he’d be right but he underestimated OP. I’m sure he whines to his friends and family about how his greedy ex bleeds him. Women need to look after their own interests because men sure look after theirs.

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When my bestie divorced, her ex refused to do anything to support the kids or his dogs (which he dumped on her). By the time the divorce rolled around, she had kept good records. The court mandated that he pay back support and alimony in a big 6 figure amount. Fair's fair.

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That good! She should not pay for his his HE DUMPED on her!

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A friend's husband invested all their savings in his start-up. It failed, they declared bankruptcy and about 8 months later, he left her and their children for a young, wealthy woman. He doesn't work, and he does not pay any support for his children (or dental care or school fees). My friend works three jobs and gets to work on a bicycle. It's really awful. I can't think how someone would treat their children like that.

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Why is alimony unfair? ›

If you pay alimony, you may feel imprisoned by being required to pay alimony for life, or experience financial hardships by being required to pay more than you can afford. It can also seem unfair if your ex dates and enjoys life but doesn't remarry, which would terminate alimony payments.

When your ex doesn't pay alimony? ›

If your ex-spouse fails to pay the ordered amount for alimony then they may be held in contempt of court. It is recommended to first determine why your ex-spouse has stopped paying the alimony and then contact an attorney to help file the legal documents needed to go to court.

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The key factors analyzed in an alimony decision are each spouse's income, ability to earn and standards of living established during the marriage. If there is a history of violence, abuse or certain criminal convictions, however, this could bar a spouse from receiving alimony payments under California law.

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Recognized for its stringent alimony rules, Texas rarely grants alimony. The court will only consider awarding spousal maintenance if the spouse seeking support can convincingly show that they cannot meet their basic reasonable needs or if a specific condition impedes their ability to work.

What is the average alimony payment in the US? ›

A: On average, most people who have to pay alimony end up paying the lower-earning spouse around 40% of their net monthly income minus half of their spouse's income, but that number is different depending on the state law, the judge presiding over the case, and certain factors that are considered when deciding on ...

Why do divorced men have to pay alimony? ›

The sole purpose of alimony is to assist one spouse financially during and after the divorce and maintain their standard of living. A divorce can be financially unfair to a lower-wage-earning or non-wage-earning spouse. So, spousal support seeks to create fairness for the dependent spouse after the marriage ends.

Does a husband have to support his wife during separation? ›

Short- or long-term spousal support, also called separation maintenance (or alimony in a divorce) may be required if one partner is financially reliant on the other. You may also be entitled to spousal support if your marriage lasted a certain period of time, or because of a variety of other factors.

What is the rule of 65 in California divorce? ›

The Guidelines also provides for the “Rule of 65”, which states that if the years of marriage plus the age of the support recipient at the time of separation equals or exceeds 65, then spousal support may be paid indefinitely.

Is there a way around alimony? ›

You can work with your spouse to come to a separation agreement outside of court. If you agree that no post-separation support payments should be awarded, you can avoid a potential alimony order from the court.

What state has no alimony? ›

All states have alimony. Every state in the United States has its own alimony laws, so they're all a little different. Some states have more comprehensive alimony laws than others. Every state allows for some form of alimony, like rehabilitative alimony.

How long do most people get alimony for? ›

Regardless of the length of the marriage, temporary alimony will always be an option. However, when a marriage lasted less than ten years, the permanent alimony will typically only last for about half the length of the marriage itself. For example, a marriage of eight years can expect an alimony period of four years.

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  1. Vermont. 450 days--enough said.
  2. Rhode Island. Divorcing couples need to wait 510 days, but they can get a fault divorce for "wickedness." How very New England of them.
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Can a woman reject alimony? ›

Finally, even when alimony is awarded, the recipient spouse has the right to refuse spousal support. This could occur for several reasons. Many refuse alimony because it is not necessary and they are able to support themselves.

Why do men ask for spousal support? ›

Seeking spousal support is fair and equitable for the husband too. Many lifestyle situations now call for an equal for both genders to request alimony once they divorce. For example, if you were employed but your salary was lower than your wife's, you may be eligible for alimony.

What happens if wife earns more than husband divorce? ›

But rarely do finances dictate matters of the heart." In addition, Shepis warns that a divorce for women who make more than their husbands can be especially painful, as the law dictates that she pay spousal support to him if her earnings are significantly greater.

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