Essential Documents Your Young Adult Children Should Sign | Her Wealth® (2024)

One of the most important college essentials is not on any
dorm packing list or official checklist.


As parents of young adults turning 18, most of us might assume that our
role as the ultimate protector and decision-maker (especially in emergency
situations) will continue as our children attend college, study abroad or enter
the workforce in whatever capacity.

But imagine if you can, the shocking moment when a parent has just been told that their 18-year-old child has been rushed to a hospital but that they cannot have immediate access to the child’s medical information or the ability to make important medical decisions. Yes, without the proper documents, a medical provider faces potential sanctions under the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act, commonly known as HIPAA, for disclosures that aren’t explicitly authorized by the patient. While medical providers are permitted to
exercise professional judgment if the patient is incapacitated or in emergency
situations, providers may be reluctant to exercise that discretion, particularly
if they don’t have an existing relationship with the patient or his or her
family.

Parents, guardians and their young-adult children should be prepared, in advance of any medical emergency, by getting the necessary legal
authority in writing. I recommend that you sit down with your legal-aged young adult children and ask that they consider signing appropriate forms naming their parents or guardian as their “agent” to handle matters for them in the event of an emergency. These forms are obtainable online or can be prepared by an attorney for you.

Medical or Health
Care Power of Attorney (“POA”)

By signing a Medical or Health Care POA (aka Health-Care Proxy), your young adult appoints an “agent” (i.e., parents or guardian) to make medical decisions on their behalf in case they are incapacitated and cannot make these decisions for themself. Each state has different laws governing a Medical POA and, therefore, different legal forms, but websites such as the American Bar Association have helpful links to those forms for each state. A good Medical POA form should include HIPAA disclosure authorization; if it does not, a separate HIPAA authorization should be signed. Whether the Medical POA requires the signature of one or 2 non-related witnesses or a notary varies by state based on the form. If your child’s college has its own form, you should have that form signed too.

HIPAA Authorization

A signed HIPAA Authorization permits health-care providers
to disclose your child’s health information to the person the child assigns as
their health care “agent” for a designated time period or indefinitely. A
stand-alone HIPAA Authorization (not incorporated into a broader legal
document) typically does not have to be notarized or witnessed and can be
signed in advance by your child. Young adults who want parents to be involved
in a medical emergency, but fear disclosure of sensitive information, need not
worry. A HIPAA Authorization does not have to be all-encompassing since your
child can stipulate not to disclose information about sex, drugs, mental
health, or other details they might want to keep private.

Durable Power of Attorney
(“POA”) – Optional (Case by Case)

A Durable POA is a
legal document that authorizes a trusted person (i.e., parents or guardian) that
your adult child designates to act as their “agent” or “attorney-in-fact” (even
though the person need not be an attorney), and remains valid even if the child
is incapacitated. Since this trusted person as “agent” can step into your adult child’s shoes to legally take care of business on their behalf, your child should only give this type of authorization to an adult they truly trust and who has their best interest at heart. An agent’s powers are generally very broad in that they can do such things as enter into legal contracts such
as signing a lease, sign tax returns, access bank accounts, etc. This legal document should be taken very seriously…it may not be essential in many situations. Durable POA forms vary by state and should typically be prepared by an attorney.

FERPA Release

FERPA stands for Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act
of 1974 and was designed to protect the privacy of a student’s education records including getting access to your child’s college grades and transcripts. This Release form basically permits post-secondary institutions to disclose your student’s personally identifiable information and educational records to their parents without the student’s consent. Of course, another approach to getting access to a student’s grades and/or transcript is to require your child
provide you log-on access to their college portal, especially if you are paying
their college tuition. Having said this, your child can change their log-on credentials at any point so having them sign the FERPA Release may ensure more consistent access, as needed.

Once these forms are signed, it’s a good idea to scan and save them electronically so they are readily available on a smart phone or
computer. You should also keep the original forms in a secure location for safe keeping.

So along with picking out their bedding for their dorm or making sure their passport is valid, discuss the importance of these legal
forms with your adult children and get them signed before they go.

Essential Documents Your Young Adult Children Should Sign | Her Wealth® (2024)

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Essential Documents Your Young Adult Children Should Sign | Her Wealth®? ›

Examples are things like your birth certificate, marriage certificate, Social Security cards, retirement accounts, life insurance documents, will and powers of attorney. You need to keep all of these things—forever. Your birth certificate, marriage certificate and Social Security card matter most when you're alive.

What paperwork should I have as an adult? ›

Examples are things like your birth certificate, marriage certificate, Social Security cards, retirement accounts, life insurance documents, will and powers of attorney. You need to keep all of these things—forever. Your birth certificate, marriage certificate and Social Security card matter most when you're alive.

Should I tell my adult children how much money I have? ›

While your adult children don't need to know exactly what your income is, they do need to know where it comes from. That's why it's important to review all your income sources with them, says Kimberly Palmer, personal finance expert at NerdWallet, a personal finance app aimed at simplifying money management.

What is the best way to leave money to your adult children? ›

One way to do this is by leaving the money in a trust, and appointing someone as trustee (the person who controls trust assets) you think will do a good job of doling out the money on behalf of, or to, the beneficiary.

Should you give money to your adult children? ›

“Involving money in relationships tends to only cause problems, not fix them. If you're giving money as a way of trying to repair a relationship or gain control over your adult child, don't do it. It's best, at that point, to simply say no. '”

What are the four documents Suze Orman says you must have? ›

These specific documents are a will, a living revocable trust, a durable power of attorney for healthcare and an advance directive. Here is an overview of what each of these documents does and why Orman feels they are essential for everyone to have.

What are the most important personal documents? ›

Identity documents including Social Security card, passport, name change documentation, and a copy of their driver's license or other ID card. Vital records such as birth and death certificates, and certificates of marriage, divorce, citizenship, or adoption.

At what age should you be financially independent from your parents? ›

There's no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. Some people begin covering all their own living expenses starting from age 18. Others become financially independent in their 20s or 30s.

When should you stop helping your adult child? ›

If helping your adult child is sacrificing your financial well-being, that's not good. I get it. You want to help your child, who may be struggling with student loans and/or high rent. But coddling them too long at the expense of your financial security eventually may shift a burden to them.

What do you tell your adult children about your finances? ›

Share any experiences you might have with debt. And discuss how to avoid debt in future. If you do decide to help them financially, make sure it comes with conditions. For example, you might pay a percentage in exchange for something you need doing around the house.

Can parents stop you from spending your own money? ›

A: Parents generally have legal authority and control over their minor child's actions, including managing their finances and possessions. They can restrict or take away items purchased with the child's money if they believe it's in the child's best interest or for disciplinary reasons.

How much money can be legally given to a family member as a gift? ›

A gift tax is a government tax imposed on those who give money or property to others in exchange for nothing (or less than total value). There is typically a tax-free gift limit to family members until a donation exceeds $15,000 (jumping up to $16,000 in 2022). In these instances, the IRS is usually uninvolved.

Should I set up a trust for my adult children? ›

While having children who share your values and attitudes about money can make it much easier to transfer your assets without a living trust, one critical reason you should still have one—is to protect their assets from those you don't trust.

What does the Bible say about financially supporting adult children? ›

The Bible strongly encourages us to care for members of our family especially older people, children, and those who may be in need. I Timothy 5:8 says, "Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."

Can my parents give me $100 000? ›

Can my parents give me $100,000? Your parents can each give you up to $17,000 each in 2023 and it isn't taxed. However, any amount that exceeds that will need to be reported to the IRS by your parents and will count against their lifetime limit of $12.9 million.

Should a parent ever ask their child for money? ›

If you need financial help for regular, day-to-day expenses, talk to the children about how much they can spare every month. Request such funds only for essential expenses, not for holidays or discreet purchases, and be mindful that you are not upsetting the budgeting and saving pattern of your children.

What legal documents should everyone have? ›

In an emergency, it's crucial to have a few essential legal estate documents readily accessible, such as a Last Will and Testament, Advance Healthcare Directive, Durable Power of Attorney (aka Financial Power of Attorney), and Living Will.

How do you prove yourself as an adult? ›

10 ways to prove that you're officially an 'adult'
  1. Pay your utility bills. ...
  2. Do some washing and ironing. ...
  3. Plan out a budget. ...
  4. Move out of the family home. ...
  5. Take out contents insurance. ...
  6. Think about buying your own home. ...
  7. Make your own financial decisions. ...
  8. Pay into a pension.

What papers should I keep and for how long? ›

To be on the safe side, McBride says to keep all tax records for at least seven years. Keep forever. Records such as birth and death certificates, marriage licenses, divorce decrees, Social Security cards, and military discharge papers should be kept indefinitely.

What are considered personal documents? ›

Acceptable Documents for Identity Verification
  • State identification (ID) card.
  • Driver license.
  • US passport or passport card.
  • US military card (front and back)
  • Military dependent's ID card (front and back)
  • Permanent Resident Card.
  • Certificate of Citizenship.
  • Certificate of Naturalization.

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